When a person has allowed themselves to remain in a situation, they feel as though they have given away every ounce of power they have... this is an illusion. The shift from Victim to FREEdom doesn't have to be a life long journey... it starts first in the mind, by changing the negative thought pattern that has been developed... since those thoughts have created a grove in the mind, it can take awhile to create a new pattern of thought.
"No matter what the problem is, our experiences are just outer effects of inner thoughts." Louise L Hay, "Your thoughts and beliefs of the past have created this moment, and all the moments up to this moment. What you are now choosing to believe and think and say will create the next moment and the next day and the next month and the next year."
I know that everything can be ok... but You need to take action and first choose to BE that which you are seeking. No one can make that choice but you, and that can be hell on those of us on the outside. I will keep believing in YOU, that you will overcome; my faith in YOU will act as a lighthouse that will help YOU to find your own path… BE strong and bright my friend and do not fall into the trap of becoming a search light, because you will drive yourself crazy. Become the LIGHTHOUSE of your own design!
When caterpillars create their cocoon, it is a process that they have to go through. When it is time for them to immerge, if an onlooker interferes in any way, the butterfly will not develop the strength needed to fly. So other than letting you know that I am here to support you, I cannot interfere regardless of how painful it is to witness. Unless you ask for help, others around you need to stay firmly planted in the belief that YOU need to make the choice to save yourself and climb out of the cocoon that you are a part of. Until you do make that choice on your own, you will keep crawling back in.
I believe in YOU my friend!
In Love & Leaning.